The Choice Of A Life Partner
The youthful age is a period of critical choices and one of these choices is the choice of a life partner. It is a critical choice. Critical in the sense that whatever choice you make now will affect other choices you make in the feature. If you make a wrong choice of a life partner today, it will affect several choices that you will make in the feature.
There are several things that when you choose them wrongly today, you can easily correct them in the feature. Correction without any damage but it is not so with the choice of life partner. The choice of a life career is very important, but such choices as important as they may be, can be corrected in the near feature. But a change in the choice of a life partner after marriage will only bring a permanent damage in the life of a man or a woman. The marriage vow is “until death do us path”, it is a choice for life. It is not a temporary estate.
If there is anything in life that you should work toward seeing that you don’t make a mistake that will remain permanent in your life your life, it will be the choice of a life partner.
Before we can start talking about choice of a life partner; you need to understand that you are not wrong when you are thinking of a life partner. It is only because you have come the stage where you will be thinking in that direction. Marriage is instituted by God and it is Him that place it as an interest in a man to fill the need of a life partner. You are not canal when you are thinking about marriage because it is instituted by God.
You need to also come to this understanding. that it is God Himself that said it is not God for a man to be Along. For every marriage to be correct, God have to say this unto you that; “it is not God for you to be along”. God has set a time for every man. And to every man He has set a specific time when He will tell you “it is not good for you to be along.” For you to start making arrangement on whom to marry, you have to wait on God divine timing. If God has not make this statement specifically to you, then you are not ready for marriage.
Peer pressure is not a reason to start a relationship, that you friends are getting married is not a good reason also. It has to be God timing. He must be the one saying unto you that now, it is not good for you to be along”. You age should not be a reason to pressure you into marriage. As important as your age may be, Gods word is also important as far as you want to make the right choice. If God has not move you Brother, don’t be move by anything.
The choice of life partner is a choice for life, Marriage is not in the presence; it is in the feature. And because you don’t know the feature, it is very important to note that God know the end of every matter from the beginning. you need to consult Him for guidance. A man may be a different person on the pulpit and a different person on the inside. Sister, it is not pulpit that you are going to marry, it is a man that you will marry. Many people that are performing well on pulpit may not be the same at home. You are not marrying anointing, you are marrying a man, He may be performing well on stage, but if stage performance is what lead you to marry Him, you will only come to discover lately that you have gotten it wrong.
Brother if a good singing voice is what lead you to a sister, remember that you are not marrying a song, you are marrying a Lady. The gentility of a Brother or a Sister before marriage is an untested gentility. He or she may be a good Bible study expositor, but that along those not guaranty a right choice. It is only Him that knows the end of from the very beginning that can guaranty you a right choice. Proverbs 19:14 says “House and riches are the inheritance from fathers, but a wise, understanding, and prudent wife is from the Lord.” Finding a life partner is good but it is only God that can give a prudent life partner.
Genesis 2:18. Now the Lord God said, it is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper meet (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him. It is God himself that says “it is not good for the man to be along; I will make for him a help meets for him.
” Proverbs 18:22 says “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord. I wife that is made by God is not a trouble, it is a help that is suited to the man. He said it in Jeremiah 29:11-12 “for I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope”. Good plan for you are for good. He is not planning disasters for you. his plan is to give you a feature and a hope.
Brother, She is not made by make-up and other artificial materials; God is the one who make her up for a specific man. Sister, you are not made to feet anybody anywhere at any time. You are made for the life of a man that you will be a help meet for him. It is God who make you and for a specific man.
The choice of a life partner is not for a flinty relationship, but it is a relationship with a purpose. It is not enough to see a man. You need to ask, what is he meant to achieve in life that I should be a help meet for him. Don’t go and be helping a man that is not doing anything, you will end up helping nothing.
It is not he that feat you now that is the right choice for you. It is He that feat your elastic expansion in life. When it is God bring a man or a woman into your life, He put your together with the same elastic expansion. A man may feat you today but may not in five to ten years. Why not allow God to be the one that will make the woman for you?
Genesis 2:21: And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam; and while he slept, He took one of his ribs or a part of his side and closed up the [place with] flesh.
Before God made the woman, the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man. For a man to make a right choice, he has to go into a deep sleep. In deep sleep He allow God to make the woman. To sleep means casting your choice on Jesus.
The period of sleep is a period that God will work on the man. Any man whom God has not work upon is not marriageable. He must go to sleep. Sister, man that God has not work upon should not have a space in your life. Brother look for God dealings in your life until yous see the need in you that need to be filled. Until you allow God to deal with you, you are not yet ready for marriage.